Monthly Archives: March 2013

Tips for Online Dating

In today’s busy world of working more than 9 – 5, suffering long daily commutes to and from work, and trying to squeeze a social life in there somewhere, many have taken to online dating. I personally think it’s a great way to meet people and see it as nothing but another avenue by which to extend your dating fishing line.

However, one must be wise if they should decide to take this avenue. Here are a few tips that I believe will help you to protect your privacy and allow yourself to be selective in whom you chose to have contact with:

  • Do not put our name or nick-name in your screen name – this may seem like a no brainer but you would be surprised at how many people actually do this.
  • Don’t put your contact information in your profile – not your phone number, e-mail, work e-mail (not that you should be doing that anyway), or any other personal contact information. If a person wants to contact you, they should pursue the avenues available through the online dating service.
  • Use photos that are not in use on your personal social media pages – photos used on your dating website profile should not be the same as those used on your facebook, twitter, linked in, or other social media websites. Why? People can do a google image search and find out more about you than you may wish them to know by your using the same pictures.
  • Use photos that portray you how you want to initially be seen and treated – Ladies, if you’re sticking your boobs out for the world to see, don’t be surprised if men are only contacting you to “hook-up”.
  • Pick flattering photos – usually, these are not photos you take of yourself.
  • Don’t choose photos with someone in them besides yourself
  • Don’t EVER post photos of your children – this should go without saying but again, you would be surprised how many people plaster photos of them with their children on dating sites. Yes, your children should be your main priority and together, you are a package deal. However, should you begin do date someone and become serious, there will be a time and place for them to meet and get to know your children. A dating website is NOT the time or place.
  • Don’t post ANY information about your children – That you have children and how many would be all that I share. I don’t even share whether they are male or female. Again, there will be a time and place for the sharing of this information if the relationship should progress in a serious direction, but a dating site where anyone and everyone has access to this information is neither the time nor the place.
  • Trust your instincts – if someone gives you the creeps, ignore them. My philosophy, “Better safe than sorry. Or in this day and age, ‘Better safe than a corpse.’”

Online dating can be wonderful experience or a taxing vexation of seemingly pointless diatribe. Either way, one thing it should not be is an opportunity for a predator.

He Who Finds a Wife

So, being a single Christian woman, I did something that I felt was practical and sound. I e-mailed a fellow woman of God who is in a strong marriage with someone whom she is equally yoked with what I thought was an appropriate request. The e-mail said, “I am looking for a husband. (I tend to be straight-forward.) If you know of any eligible Christian bachelors who are looking for a wife, I would appreciate an introduction.”

The response I received opened my mind and spirit to read a different and revealing interpretation to Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord,” (NIV). My fellow woman of God replied to me, “You got it. I will pray the Lord leads you. Remember, HE who finds a good wife finds a good thing. He’ll find you, girl, in God’s most perfect timing.”

I wrote back, “Amen!!! Thank you!”

While I have known this scripture for years and it is solidly emblazoned in my mind, I was totally missing that it is “he” who finds, not “she”. The Bible doesn’t say, “She who finds a husband…” Instantly this scripture took on a whole new connotation and my spirit was uplifted. The next day I texted my loving sister and shared with her how she had blessed my soul.

I share this advice with you to not only enlighten you, but to encourage you that God has a perfect plan for everyone. While we should diligently be about doing that which He has given us to do, sometimes He calls us to sit still and know that He is God.

Thank you, my friend, for allowing God to use you, not only to help shed light for me, but for those who read this article as well. May God bless you and your beautiful family! Amen